Friendly Relations with the People Around
1 You depend on all the people closely around to give you the warm feeling of belongingness (归属) that you must have to feel secure. But， in fact， the members of all the groups to which you belong also depend on you to give that feeling to them. A person
who shows that he wants everything for himself is bound (一定的) to be a lonely wolf.
2 The need for companionship is closely related to the need for a sense of belongingness. How sad and lonely your life would be if you had no one to share your feelings and experiences. You may take it for granted that there always will be people
around to talk to and to do things with you and for you. The important point， however， is that keeping emotionally healthy does not depend so much upon having people around you as upon your ability to establish relationships that are satisfying both to you and to them.
3 Suppose you are in a crowd watching a football game. You don‘t know them. When the game is over， you will all go your separate ways. But just for a while you had a feeling
of companionship， of sharing the feelings of others who were cheering for the team you wanted to win.
4 An experience of this kind gives the clue (线索) to what companionship really is. It depends upon emotional ties of sympathy， understanding， trust， and affection. Companions become friends when ihese ties are formed.
5 When you are thrown in a new circle of acquaintances (熟人)， you may not know with whom you will make friends， but you can be sure that you will be able to establish friendships if you show that you really like people.